Ugh.. Ok.. I made a bad assumption. This didn't have anything to do with VNC at all.. I think I'm a victum of uboot not wanting to reliably boot form my USB drive even though it's the offical one that goes to it... My buddy has several dockstars and lent me this one to experiment on.. We switched out the USB drive and now it seems I don't have this problem. Thanks gby JohnRKlein - Debian
I'm not a Linux Guru in addition to never doing remote desktops.. I've been having trouble and have tried several different ways.. Anyway, here's some exact steps if someone wants to help me figure out what I'm doing wrong. Here's what I did step by step. Step 1: I do a fresh Debian install per directions here. reboot. Step 2: apt-get update For some reasonby JohnRKlein - Debian